You can,
if you wish,
influence your partner to change
in ways that could
make your life
more comfortable.
However, can you really
change something
you don’t understand?
How deeply do you
know what your partner
fears
thinks
believes
hopes for
in the area you seek change?
Know these answers and you will both benefit.
If you do not
thoroughly seek
these answers
stop whining.
For most of us, this ain’t easy. Including me.
till next time,
Pete
P.S. What are some things your partner might fear, think, believe or hope for in the area you seek to change? Click “comments” under the title to share your ideas. Be sure to click “submit comment” so that your ideas get published.
P.P.S. If you really want to stop whining and improve your marriage, don’t miss my weekend workshop for couples, which takes place next month. Click couples workshop for more information including a free audio clip from a past workshop.
Peter Pearson, Ph.D. and Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. are founders and directors of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. As therapists, workshop leaders, authors, speakers, and as a married couple themselves, they are dedicated to helping couples create extraordinary relationships. They have been featured on over 80 radio and television programs including “The Today Show” and “CBS Early Morning News.” For free marriage advice visit their site The Couples Institute.
