Here is the distress pattern of most (but not all) couples:
When one person is triggered by feeling rejected
neglected
disrespected
threatened
They respond with
aggression
retaliation
resentful compliance disengagement
Which then triggers their partner to feel
rejected
neglected
disrespected
threatened
Which leads to responding with aggression
retaliation
resentful compliance disengagement
Wash. Rinse. Repeat.
