Are you tired of communication guidelines that don't work? Does your partner withdraw or avoid intimate discussions with you? Is the dream that brought you together fading away?

Every week we see couples who blame, attack or give each other the silent treatment. Couples come to us who don't listen to one another and fight about money, household chores, lack of sex and not enough time together.

Sadly, what starts as infrequent fights can escalate into more frequent fights or serious bouts of "the silent treatment". The loving connection starts to erode.

Would you like results like these? “We’re able to articulate things in a non-blaming way, and we end up connecting over our differences. The power in it amazes me.” ~Elizabeth LaRiche “I learned to be more understanding of my wife’s struggles which dissolves our defensiveness. Conversations are collaborative instead of righteous. We can influence each other in positive directions and avoid negative spirals.” ~Dave Tjon “(We) learned tools to stop repetitive arguments and get fresh perspectives that are cooperative instead of blameful.” ~Adrienne Wong “We discovered deeper understanding leads to change without bitterness.” ~Amy Solanas “I can now remain calm during tough talks. We should all learn these skills in kindergarten!” ~Mary Jean Jones

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I understand that I will learn exactly how to:

• have the loving and supportive discussions I have dreamed about
• get my partner to understand exactly what I am saying
• get my partner to show patience and curiosity
• quickly transform communication roadblocks into win-win discussions
• help my partner to rapidly think on my wavelength
• master the ability to go from terrible to terrific discussions
• be heard and understood without hearing a “get well plan” from my partner
• use this process for empathic and safe dialogues
• discuss our toughest topics without triggering defensive reflexes in each other
• create a foundation for negotiation and problem solving if that is what we want

This technique draws on powerful personal forces you haven’t been aware of. It stops emotional defensiveness that other communication techniques don’t address. You will learn that your brain is designed protect you from emotional pain but that same protection unwittingly is what causes
really poor communication.

“I messages” and active listening aren’t up to the task of improving tough discussions. In fact, they often create more frustration than they relieve. Commonly taught communication techniques only work with one region of the brain. You might as well try rowing a boat with one oar in high winds.

You will work like heck, but you’ll go in circles.

If you want collaborative communication, you need tools that draw upon all regions of your brain.

Here are additional results from other couples who practiced using this method. “The result is that I’m more in touch with myself, and really ready to listen to my mate.…These tools really work.” ~Steve Fagry “My partner and I are so impressed with each other’s ability to work with this method. The results are very fulfilling.” ~Claire Owens “I now feel we have a great opportunity to create an incredible relationship. I really do not see how a couple could be effective without learning these techniques!” ~David Owens “The tools that I learned are so powerful, rich, and cutting edge. It brings me hope for couples everywhere!” ~Deb Frost "The fear I felt when bringing up challenging issues with my partner has been drastically reduced." ~Rick G. "We knew there was a better way, and now we found it. Thank you." ~Dan Scamara "I can now be the person I want to be when discussing an emotionally loaded issue with my husband. The impact has been enormous." ~Kathie Christie

For your assurance – here’s my guarantee and a very personal note.

Look, I’m not going to insult your intelligence by saying you can create these results with one trial. It takes practice to get the results like the people who graciously shared their testimonials. If you want solutions for communication problems that can fit on a bumper sticker, you have a lot of searching ahead of you. If you are looking for one magic pill to cure your relationship ills, I don’t believe it exists.

Over the twenty years we have worked personally with many thousands of couples. There are very few therapists anywhere who have had more couples experience than we have.

And that’s not all. We’ve trained thousands of therapists throughout the U.S and four other continents. As these professionals learn from us, they send questions and feedback about their greatest relationship challenges in their practice. They also share their best strategies for improving relationships. And their experiences add to our depth of knowledge.

So you get the most effective combination of the science and art of improving your relationship. But still, it takes practice.

Above all I want is for you to try this out. If the theory behind the strategy and the technique that stems from it doesn’t work for you, we will refund your fee. Simply email us at admin@couplesinstitute.com and say you wish to remain helpless, hopeless, hapless and humpless in your relationship and you get cheerful refund plus our condolences. Or you can simply say you would like a cheerful refund.

The ability to communicate effectively while managing unruly emotions is the foundation for a flourishing and loving relationship. You are only minutes away from having the tools to talk with your partner like you always wished you could.

You get more than reading about rules and guidelines. You will hear a couple going through this process – live and unrehearsed. Your “how to” questions get answered as you listen to an actual couple go through a real time and unrehearsed dialogue that would have triggered high defensiveness in the past.

But there is more. You also receive a transcript of the entire teleseminar for review at your convenience in the comfort of your home at the time of your choosing.

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For Only $40.00 you will receive instant access to the full digital version immediately! You can start right now to create those loving conversations that might sound like this:

"I now feel more capable in the face of conflict--without Valium even!" ~Jocelyn Parker “I have found a whole new freedom with my husband.” ~Ellen Hubler “These methods have allowed me to handle stressful situations in our relationship that I would have avoided in the past.” ~Amy Fox “These methods have made me more supportive and emotionally available for my partner. It is absolutely worth it.” ~Krishna Roskin

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“I learned tools that have helped deepen, strengthen, and heal my relationship…I understand my partner in a whole new way.” ~Tammie Perry

Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson Beyond “I messages:” Safe and Sane Couples Communication

How many times have you and your partner struggled to discuss a problem without pointing fingers or getting agitated?

And even if your partner says they are not blaming – do you feel blamed anyway?

Perhaps you have tried the classic “I Messages” but found that this old approach unwittingly created heated discussions. “I Messages” sometimes make you feel responsible for your partner’s reactions. And this guarantees the start of a very bad discussion. Before you know it, you are digging yourself out of a hole you didn’t even mean to create.

There is a way out.

We conducted a one-hour teleseminar to teach an innovative approach to discussing challenging topics, and you can listen to a downloadable audio version of this session.

Using a unique structure to guide you through your toughest topics, you can start discussing difficulties without triggering defensive reflexes in each other.

Sometimes you just want to be heard and understood without hearing a “get well plan” from your partner. Now you will have a process for empathic dialogues.

Imagine going from furious to curious on tough topics, or collaborating rather than fighting.

You will also have a foundation for negotiation or problem solving if that is required.

Conversations that are conflictual occur because each person defaults into a self protective mode. All ineffective communication stems from the natural desire to get relief from the pain or threat each person feels. When you are calmer, when you can avoid pain or feeling threatened, topics can be discussed more easily.

Learning this process will enable you to reduce or eliminate the threat and avoid the pain. Now you and your partner can talk in ways that are reminiscent of when you first got together.

You’ll learn individual steps for initiating difficult discussions. But your success requires more than that. You will also hear a live demonstration of a couple practicing this process.

As a bonus, you will also get a transcript of this teleseminar so you can conveniently skim and review the material after you listen to it. You can strengthen your valuable new communication skill for even better problem solving and negotiation next time. All of this can be done in the comfort and convenience of your home. And we’re teaching things that can help you even if your partner chooses not to join the call!

The session costs just $40.00. And our guarantee makes it risk free. If you don’t feel the material is worth your time and money teaching you new ways to relate and communicate, we’ll give you a complete refund.

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Wishing you the best in your relationship,
Drs. Peter Pearson and Ellyn Bader

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