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Join us as we part the curtains on insider information gleaned from working with thousands of couples over 25 years. This is real-time demonstration and information that you can't get in print or self help books. Utilizing this information will help you catapult your relationship into one that is more loving and collaborative.

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Online Couples' Community

Close your eyes and picture getting support from the privacy of your own home and the comfort of your own couch. You can be on a phone call with us, the experts who have a combined 50 years of experience. This is not pre-recorded material and this is not a teaching assistant. You can interact live or you can listen anonymously.

Imagine participating in an active community, where there's couples' support, innovative information, personal growth and solutions to couples' painful power struggles. Members support, encourage and even challenge each other. Finally, the internet and technology have made this dream possible - and we are inviting you to be part of it.

You are not deficient if you have conflicts. We know that normal marriages face tough challenges that drive lovers apart unless they learn techniques to create an incredible relationship.

As one participant marveled, ""I now feel we have a great opportunity to create an incredible relationship. I really do not see how a couple could be effective without learning these techniques!"
~David Owens

We have created an online couples' community, a special member' s only website where you can learn strategies to overcome common relationship problems, and where you can interact with us live and with other partners who are striving for happy, satisfying marriages. We really hope you'll join us.

Get Help Fast.

Immediately upon joining you will get entrance to a private site with our Past Monthly Calls - Archived For EasyListening.

For example, listen now to:

"Mending Hurt Feelings"
In this session, you will learn an amazing, quick technique that can mend hurt feelings or even break the pattern of arguments that spiral out of control.

"Stopping Downward Spirals"
Do you ever have repetitive fights? Perhaps you wished you'd stopped one of them before it got nasty or critical. Learn to stop it cold and find a way to re-connect. Learn to take action immediately and prevent downward spirals before they damage your relationship.

"Sex as a Second Language: Learning to Speak More Fluently"
Special guest Monica Stone, a certified sex therapist, teaches how to communicate about sex and your most intimate desires.

"The Emotional Brain"
Learn how we are wired to seek love and connection as well as wired for self protection. This biological contradiction creates painful dilemmas for all couples. You will learn strategies for soothing rejection and reconnecting after stressful interactions.

"The Stages of Marriage"
You can listen to this session and learn our philosophy of effective relationships - and why it is important to know yourself. You will also hear one of our members, Loretta, describing the stages of her 19 year relationship with her husband. You will get to hear how they handled the painful loss of his wedding ring and how they maintained a loving connection after their first child was born.

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A Collection Of Our Best Articles

Articles are organized and indexed so you can easily find responses to specific relationship questions.

Here are some of the specific topics that will deliver instant information and answers in the Online Couples' Community:

"Dealing with the Passive Aggressive." So many couples fight over the division of labor at home. You'll break through the stalemate when you use targeted negotiation strategies.

"How to Prepare to Discuss Tough Topics." Talking about in-laws, discipline, or money can challenge even the happiest couple. We'll teach you how to prepare for tough discussions and how to talk to promote understanding. And how to listen in a way that soothes and prepares for progress.

"4 Tips for Talking about Sex." Communication skills for better sex.

"Super Negotiation Just for Couples." Knowing that you have effective skills to negotiate will enable you to find solutions that work for both partners. No longer will there be a winner and a loser.

Plus, you get 30 more articles!

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And you get a Variety of Audio Answers to Questions Other Couples Have Submitted to Us

How do I stop repeating old communication and behavior patterns that don't work?

How do I stop my spouse from withdrawing and giving me the silent treatment?

How can we refocus and calm down during a tense discussion?

How do I deal with nastiness?

And a dozen more.

Sign up now to hear answers to common couples' problems

And Two Different Training Teleseminars

"Beyond 'I Messages:' Safe and Sane Couples Communication"
Download this one hour demonstration and learn an innovative approach to discussing sensitive topics. Apply our unique format to guide you through your toughest topics and start discussing problems without triggering defensive reflexes in each other. Communicate and connect in a way that fosters vulnerability and intimacy together.

"Soothing Moments: Rapid Relationship Repair'
It is human to make mistakes and trigger pain inadvertently in our partners. It is also human for our partners to blow it and say something that just makes us feel really hurt. By listening to this program, you learn what to do to alleviate pain more rapidly, how to move past the pain, and how to enjoy more intimacy with your partner - immediately!

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The Blog

You will have the opportunity to write in and submit questions and see responses from us and other couples. The blogging community is open to you 24 hours/day. You will get stimulating, interesting exercises to bring new life to your relationship.If you have questions, conflicts or need creative ideas, the blog can be your go to guide through the relationship terrain.

You can learn from listening, but you will also get out as much as you put into it (like exercise… watching people work out may teach you form, but it won't give you bigger biceps).

You will hear from other couples who are stretching themselves to feel that satisfying connection with their partner. The more you interact with our community and the experts, the more tools you will have to put into your tool kit, and the more you will be able to knowledgably return to your partner and be confident that the techniques you are using to fix your relationship are the ones being used by the leading experts in the field.

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Search The Internet And You Will Find Lots Of Relationship Advice From People With Questionable credentials.

It's not unusual to find e-books full of relationship advice written by ghostwriters or business people who have never worked with couples on the nitty-gritty, day-in and day-out problems all couples face. Our degrees are in Psychology, but even more important is the years of hands-on experience we have working with real people and real problems.

Our training is genuine, our information is practical, and our experience is unsurpassed and - our marriage is 26 years long.

Not Just a Pile of Self-Help Books

We know the power of community in advocating change and we are using today's technology to create a meaningful educational online environment.

Have you bought self-help books before? Maybe you've got a whole library of them.

This is not just another stack of books - it's interaction, education, support, and community, all specifically designed to help you stop fighting or giving the silent treatment and start communicating with love and respect. We'll share our support, best advice and sometimes the occasional tough love. We'll ask you to commit to developing yourself into a more loving, effective partner.

You'll have monthly conference calls with us where you can interact with us as we teach new skills for your marriage or relationship.

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Get Help Fast

You'll have instant access to a whole collection of print and audio information. If you were going to see a marriage therapist, you'd need time to convince your spouse, choose a therapist and schedule an appointment. But you can listen immediately to programs on a variety of common relationship problems.

For example, in the conference call on "The Emotional Brain," we discuss why things our partners say can be so painful. And then teach a quick technique to get over it in just a few minutes. And you can listen to it as soon as you sign up.

Communication problems? Check out the communications section, where you'll find articles and audios that can provide specific ways to start your next difficult discussion. Every couple has challenging issues to discuss. Why not learn from the experts and do it with finesse?

Do your arguments spiral out of control? Do you end up sometimes worse than where you started? Hurt feelings and no constructive solutions? We've got specific strategies to help you stop getting into those negative cycles.

We'd be the last people to criticize marriage counseling. Our combined 50 years experience as couples therapists has shown us its true value. Many couples benefit from the intense focus of a professional therapist.

But we realize that some situations call for creative, instant help. Some couples can't afford therapy. Others want to augment their therapy with additional growth. And your relationship can really grow with the help of monthly conference calls where you can speak with us directly.

Join now to listen immediately.

Learn From Other Couples, Too

In every workshop and couples group we lead, the most common reaction we hear is, "I thought we were the only ones having these struggles. It was so helpful to see that we are normal and learn ways to feel better immediately."

Rather than a one shot deal, you'll get a steady infusion of techniques, education, and support. And you'll have the opportunity to speak with us about the material. You'll also receive some bonus calls from other experts. Our next bonus call is "Flirting with your Partner." The community of other couples will inform and inspire you, too, as you listen and read their experiences.

Who Are We?

Dr Peter Pearson Dr. Pearson is an engaging, dynamic expert in couples therapy and in leading couples workshops. His powerful presentations always include practical skills, advanced techniques in talking about tough topics and entertaining vignettes from his own marriage to demonstrate how challenges can be mastered. In addition to his work with Ellyn at The Couples Institute Peter was a Consulting Associate Professor at Stanford University in the Department of Counseling Psychology from 1988 - 2002.

Dr. Ellyn Bader In addition to her busy therapy practice, Ellyn maintains an active schedule training other professionals around the world, at conferences, at The Couples Institute and in an innovative online program. Ellyn is on a mission to improve couples' relationships, and her influence reaches literally around the world. She spent eight years on the Clinical Faculty at Stanford University School of Medicine and served as the President of the International Transactional Analysis Association.

For more than 25 years, we have each helped couples create extraordinary relationships. Our textbook, In Quest of the Mythical Mate is used in graduate schools across the United States. Our popular book, Tell Me No Lies: How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage, resulted in our being featured nationwide on over 80 radio and television programs including "The Today Show" and "CBS Early Morning News."

We'd Like to Show You the Way to a Better Marriage or Relationship

This new educational website can't take the place of couples therapy, but it is remarkably informative and supportive for the price. And the convenience can't be beat.

And Here Is An Actual Audio Review Click the play button to hear from Joan in Sacramento.

Now you can pay just $35 per month to join this stellar community. As we add new material, the price will rise, but you will always pay just $35/month for as long as you choose to stay with us.

Great Value!

Therapy with us costs hundreds of dollars. To get both Pete and Ellyn for an hour by yourself would cost over $400. Pete's weekend workshop costs $697. This membership costs you only $1.17/day, far less than a latte at Starbucks. Which is more valuable for your well-being?

For $35 per month, you can't get private therapy or an intensive workshop, but you'll get access to our rich knowledge, a peek into all the expertise we've gained in our practice and creative ideas about how to apply methods we've found to be successful.. And you get monthly conference calls where you can speak with the experts.

You Are Fully Protected By Our 100% Money-Back Guarantee! Click Play to Hear About Our Refund Policy I understand that The Couples Institute's Online Couples' Community is fully covered by your zero-risk, no questions asked 100% money-back guarantee. I also understand that if I'm not thoroughly convinced that The Couples Institute's Online Couples' Community is an outstanding value to improve my relationship, I just need to send an email to The Couples Institute or call toll free 877-327-5915 to cancel my service at any time. If I cancel within 30 days, I will be given a full refund. Otherwise I'll be billed automatically every 30 days until I cancel my service. In other words, I can join for up to one month absolutely risk free. I've got nothing to lose.

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Live Monthly Conference Calls

Don't miss this opportunity to participate once a month on a phone call live with Ellyn and Pete to get insight into your relationship and get answers and ideas about how to approach your most pressing relationship challenges.

These calls will include relevant topics and some Q and A calls. They will be permanently archived for easy retrieval so you can listen to the topics that fit you 24/7 in the future. And our topics will be relevant because we will ask you what you want discussed.

More Praise for Dr. Bader and Dr. Pearson: "We're able to articulate things in a non-blaming way, and we end up connecting over our differences. The power in it amazes me." ~Elizabeth LaRiche "We discovered deeper understanding leads to change without bitterness." ~Amy Solaras

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"I feel safer, like I have ways to not lose myself and to be present for my partner's experience and feelings. I feel more relaxed and my heart feels softer. I feel closer to my partner again."
~Denise Lillian, Oakland, CA

From both professional and personal experience we know that the "relationship promised land" is possible. It takes more than you can learn in self-help magazines or handy tips from Cosmo to feel closer to your partner again. It takes Clarity on what to do, Commitment to apply knowledge, and Compassion for yourself and your partner.

It also takes risk and stretching yourself to try new approaches that may not feel natural or intuitive. These three C's" Commitment, Clarity and Compassion, along with new skills will put you on the road to a relationship that other couples simply wish for but never achieve.

Let's review the offer again.

• Join the online couples' community and participate actively or listen confidentially
• Participate live in monthly tele-training calls with the experts. Get your questions answered immediately.
• Discover the impact your brain has on your love life and learn to support, rather than withdraw from love.
• Review past calls on sex, preparing for the holidays, overcoming power struggles and making effective decisions.
• Read more than 30 articles that are organized, indexed, and ready to help your relationship thrive.
• Listen immediately to 25 brief audio responses to couples' most frequently asked troubling questions. Get relief now.
• Learn quick strategies for rapidly repairing hurt feelings so you can recover quickly and not waste precious energy being mad or withdrawn.
• Listen to Loretta describe the normal predictable stages of marriage in her 19 year marriage and how she and her husband overcame some difficult struggles.
• Participate in our blog and have animated interaction with us and other couples. Get help and feedback as you practice what you learn.
• Enhance your skills in addressing sensitive topics both as an initiator and as a listener.

All for a monthly fee of $35.

You can get affordable, professional marriage advice conveniently, confidentially and frequently accessed by phone or internet.

In other words, for less than the cost of a romantic dinner, you can infuse your relationship with energy and information that improves your chances of a happy, satisfying, lasting marriage or relationship.

And remember, all this is presented by two psychologists who not only wrote the book on couples therapy, but are married to each other, have worked together for 26 years and understand first-hand the challenges you face. We've been forced to practice what we preach.

And Another Rave Review Click the play button to hear from Janice in Benicia.

So here's what you do.

Click on the link below. It will lead you through the payment and registration process. You will receive an email confirmation and directions about how to create your user name and password to gain entry to the site. Check out the Events category to get the time and date for our next call. We'll send emails with information on how to participate in the phone calls and the blog.

We have made the site easy to navigate and very user-friendly. You don't need to be a techno-whiz to make it work, but you're welcome to call our office - toll free - if you'd like help. Call 877-327-5915.

You will be billed $35 per month for as long as you find your membership useful, helpful, informative, and/or inspiring for your relationship.

Now come on, let's make your marriage a success.

You are not alone.

We look forward to supporting you,

Ellyn and Pete

P.S. All of this costs you only $1.17 / day.

P.P.S. And in addition to the calls you get as part of your membership, we ask other experts to give you bonus calls. Here are two of the extras you will get this fall: Flirting with Your Partner and Keeping Marriages Strong When the Kids Come Along.